I am a freshman at a Christian college.
Over the past few months I have become really good friends with a guy I will call B. He is one of my very best friends and I can talk to him about anything. I would love to date him, and sometimes I really think he feels the same way, but it has been almost 6 months and nothing has happened. I have started to doubt that it ever will.
A few weeks ago I met R when he transferred to my school. We have really just started talking over the past few days, but it is obvious that he IS interested. He is also a Christian and wants to go in to youth ministry. Today we went out for coffee and talked for 2 hours and it was great. Tonight, I invited him to come watch a movie with a group of us, including B.
I was sitting in chair behind R, who was on the floor. B and his roommate were on the other side of the room. R texted me and asked me to come down and sit on the floor with him. I did, but I kept a distance. He kept scooting closer and poking my arms and legs and belly. It made me VERY uncomfortable because he was being WAY too forward for the amount of time we have known each other and it was in front of B and my other friends. I know B noticed, because he kept looking over, but he didn’t say anything.
After the movie, I said goodbye. Hugged both B and R. Went back to my room still feeling very uncomfortable. I could also sense that something was up with B. R started texting me and telling me that he had the best day with me. I told him I had a nice day, too, but I didn’t know what else to say, so I just stopped answering. He finally texted and said that he was going to bed and would see/talk to me in the morning.
What should I do??? I am confused.
I Don’t Know What To Do About A Nice Guy Who Might Be Coming On Too Strong.?
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Its obvious that B likes you. It is also very apparent that R likes you. It is really up to you, who do you like more? Or when it really comes down to it do you like any of them? Good luck!
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A ‘nice guy’. In other words unattractive to you. Wait till you’re in your 30′s and you realize that ‘nice guy’ was the one you should have dated.
As for your situation now….tell him straight up that you aren’t interested. Don’t lead the guy on or give him any false hope.
Too me it sounds like you need to confront your feeling towards B, Maybe his unsure the way you feel for him. Maybe his too scared to make the first move because his unsure if you don’t like him.
As for R, I think you just need to be honest with him and tell him his being a little foward, honestly goes a long way in friendships.
I hopes this helps you a lot.